Author Topic: I need help (again) sorry (Read 789 times)

lucie · « **on:** May 18, 2011, 08:45:09 AM »

I would like to receive reiki again because I m so sensitive that I had lots of problems these last weeks, I am with a bf but there are so many problems that I don t eat and sleep properly and I accumulated lots of bad energies because of too much stress during one night because everytime I am trying to have sex with someone I get very depressed and stressed, and guilty because I feel not normal. I always do the same "mistake" again to try ... but if I don t I ll just have to stay alone lol.
sorry I said I didn t want to post anymore for my last post but I was too shy that s why but I don t mind answers .

lucie · « **Reply #1 on:** May 18, 2011, 09:14:02 AM »

I m in France ( near Paris)

strawberry · « **Reply #2 on:** May 18, 2011, 12:13:15 PM »

Hi Lucie,

I am really sorry to hear that you are felling so distressed,

Quote from: lucie on May 18, 2011, 08:45:09 AM

I accumulated lots of bad energies because of too much stress during one night because everytime I am trying to have sex with someone I get very depressed and stressed, and guilty because I feel not normal. I always do the same "mistake" again to try ... but if I don t I ll just have to stay alone lol.

please, please, please... if you are feeling this way during sex... why don't you stop trying before you hurt yourself more... I am wary to 'interfere', but if your boyfriend isn't picking up on the fact that you're feeling depressed, stressed and guilty and wants to continue anyaway.... well, it just doesn't seem healthy or respectful... and if you're worried that forcing yourself to do something that, because of underlying issues, you're not comfortable with means that you'll end up alone otherwise - ... well, I just don't think that's true at all:

If you go back to a therapist and discover what's issues are underneath these feellings of depression, stress, guilt and not feeling normal - make yourself well, happy and comfortable and self respecting... then I am sure you would be able to approach relationship from a much healthier standpoint and no longer be vulnerable to anyone who may want to exploit your vulnerabilities - upshot - please go back to a therapist...

Anyhow, I'm more than happy to send a whole load of Reiki your way... please take care of yourself x

lucie · « **Reply #3 on:** May 18, 2011, 01:12:59 PM »

thank you very much for your reply ;
I see a therapist since a few months and it helps me little bit but for that problem not yet , but anyway I ll continue and I will see..

strawberry · « **Reply #4 on:** May 18, 2011, 04:39:30 PM »

No problem Lucie ~ Best Wishes.

lucie · « **Reply #5 on:** May 21, 2011, 10:00:41 PM »

I m too sad

, I m afraid to lose my boyfriend because of my problems, he doesn t call me and I can t eat because I m too stressed waiting for him, but I keep on hoping that things get better with him because him or someone else... it will be same I know, I mean I m always rejected by men .

strawberry · « **Reply #6 on:** May 22, 2011, 01:06:01 PM »

Oh dear Lucie... I'm sorry to see that you are so sad... I've been sending you lots of Reiki... so rest assured - there is help and support within that. The only thing I can say which will hopefully be of some use, is to reitterate what I was saying earlier in the thread... I really do thing you have to focus on yourself and making yourself well, continue with your therapist get to the root of the issues which are getting to you so much.

Something you could be doing along the way is making sure that you are eating healthily and exercising, do you do those things?

lucie · « **Reply #7 on:** May 22, 2011, 01:38:07 PM »

thanks

yes I know I see my therapist and everything but I have been talking about these problems for years I think now and nothing changed

and yes I try to eat healthy food even if I don t eat a lot lol because everytime I feel stressed I lose appetite, I have a little anorexic tendancy too and i don t like exercise very much lol.

strawberry · « **Reply #8 on:** May 22, 2011, 06:19:43 PM »

If you have talked about these problems for years and nothing is changing... how do you envisage the future?

lucie · « **Reply #9 on:** May 22, 2011, 07:39:52 PM »

I don t know yet

in fact I tried to stop thinking about the past I mean stop wondering why I have these problems because it was a real obsession for me, and It seemed to work, I was feeling much better but until something reminds me of them again...

strawberry · « **Reply #10 on:** May 23, 2011, 10:47:23 AM »

Is that why you become stressed and anxious when you're alone... you don't like to be alone with your own thoughts, because you're trying to push something away?

Btw, what did you mean when you said:

Quote from: lucie on May 21, 2011, 10:00:41 PM

I keep on hoping that things get better with him because him or someone else... it will be same I know, I mean I m always rejected by men .

lucie · « **Reply #11 on:** May 23, 2011, 11:00:14 AM »

yes maybe I don t want to be alone with my own thoughts...
What I meant is th I always have the same problem, that men reject me because they don t have enough patience ( one night is enough for them lol)

lucie · « **Reply #12 on:** May 23, 2011, 12:59:50 PM »

at least now I m eating

strawberry · « **Reply #13 on:** May 23, 2011, 04:33:56 PM »

Quote from: lucie on May 23, 2011, 11:00:14 AM

What I meant is th I always have the same problem, that men reject me because they don t have enough patience ( one night is enough for them lol)

Don't let anyone use you Lucie, if you're looking for some comforting and love, then it must be pretty evident by now that's not the way to achieve that... if you stop yourself from jumping right in as soon as you meet someone, I'm sure that you will immediately begin to feel a sense of your own inner strength and power.

...glad to here that you're eating... I'm imagining something deliciously French... slurppp, and drooling like Homer Simpson!

btw, do you manage to feel relaxed at times?

lucie · « **Reply #14 on:** May 23, 2011, 05:54:49 PM »

I wouldn t say that men use me because they stay frustrated lol, it s more that they don t want to try again and be disapointed,even if I d like to.. anyway if I was waiting it would be the same one day or another... and must be french men s mentality too lol.
lol yes french food of course...but I don t know how to cook very well lol.
yes I m relaxed sometimes.

strawberry · « **Reply #15 on:** May 24, 2011, 06:36:23 AM »

OK, Lucie, now I see what you mean... I'll keep sending Reiki for a while and hopefully the benefits will soon be evident to you... don't forget you can always check in here if you need to

lucie · « **Reply #16 on:** May 24, 2011, 08:03:44 AM »

thanks a lot

lucie · « **Reply #17 on:** May 24, 2011, 10:32:56 AM »

my boyfriend finnally called me and he seems to try to undurstand me more ,
I hope it will last

strawberry · « **Reply #18 on:** May 24, 2011, 11:21:46 AM »

I hope it will last too - All The Best

lucie · « **Reply #19 on:** May 27, 2011, 10:25:29 PM »

I m still not feeling well I mean I was little bit better but I feel like I have bad luck or there are lots of obstacles these days and I begin to feel anxious and depressed , and It s also because I feel nothing change for the moment that I get stressed I mean I always feel my boyfriend won t contact me and he doesn t and I get very impatient.
I was so obsessed with that that now even my phone line is not working lol.
I m afraid to get depressed again because since a few months I am better but I have to stop my medication too these days also.
thanks for your help

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Author Topic: I need help (again) sorry (Read 789 times)